When I polled my social media friends to list out characteristics of a good leader, I got things like this:
A good listener
Someone with empathy
Someone who is honest, open minded and has courage
Someone who knows how to motivate a team
Someone who doesn’t always need to be at the front of the people they’re serving
Someone who is selfless
Someone who has the courage and power to fight for the current & future generations
A mentor, coach and servant-leader
That last one resonated with me because this post is all about Kocc Barma’s saying Buur du mbokk! Loosely translated, that means a king is not loyal!
So, why did Kocc Barma say that? A leader is technically a king, without the royal context. At the end of the day, they’re both leaders so how should we think about this? How do I reconcile all the positive attributes my lovely friends listed above with this bold statement that leaders are essentially not loyal? Hmmm…
Below, I’ll give examples of good and bad leaders, along with researched opinions, and see if I can reconcile this in my head. Bear with me.
Good listener. Empathetic. Know when to follow. Selfless. Charismatic. Courageous. Servant-Leader. Loyal.
Notice how all of these leaders are male. I did this on purpose and will dissect this dynamic another day but now, let stay on topic and just say WOW! We’ve got all kinds of “styles” of leadership here and it’s safe to say there’s no magical recipe to getting it done right but I can tell it’s not done right by oppressing your constituents; it’s not done right by overstepping your rights and power; it’s not done right by overstaying your welcome. A good leader, among all other things, knows when it’s time to leave!